Is it because they don't have to pay child support anymore or because the child doesn't need them financially. I'm watching a show called "Whose Wedding is it Anyway?" Both of the brides in the scenarios have "paternal" issues. One is worried that her father will appear at her wedding uninvited, the other has a stepfather who was more active and she prefers that he walk her down the aisle instead of her real father.
Situations like this are extremely tricky and emotional. One one had you want to be the bigger person, but on the other hand there is so much resentment you can't hold it it. I know quite a few women who have issues with their fathers, either because he wasn't there, he was a jerk, or he simply wasn't a good father. This is not just a black issue, it is an issue among all races. A preacher at my church said his father had five wives and families. Wow! What do you say to a man who left you to go be with another family? What do you say to a man who never sent you a single dime in college, yet he called you the day after graduation and every day thereafter like he was your best friend? Intentional? Probably. Or the man who ignored you and your siblings but doted on the one he had out of wedlock with someone other than your mother? How do you get past that? There's always two sides to every story when a man and woman come together and make a child, daddy's version, mama's version, and the truth. Yes well all know s*** happens. But when will it stop.
Men need to stop sleeping with these women they know they don't love and getting them caught up. It takes two to tango but the man is supposed to take the lead, right? When do you draw the line and decide that you will take responsibility for your actions? Coming around when a check is no longer required is a crock. You can be a father if you really want to.
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