The Black man has long had to compete with the historical stereotypes that you are all Mandingo Warriors with ruler long instruments. While for some this may be true, a survey of women polled on a forum that shall remain nameless said that an astonishing 35% of women have never had an orgasm. Geesh, you would think with all these tongue wagging, slick talking, Escalade driving, holler-at-every-chick you meet types would have better bed skills. I've listened to my fellow woman laugh at the bruthas who bought Magnums when all they needed was a Trojan. "It's hilarious," one woman says. "The condom goes on and it's baggy. How do you do the do after that?"
Women have to be careful directing a brutha to the destination too. So many egos, so little confidence. "A lot of men don't listen," says one Atlantan. "They want to tell you to do this or that but when it's time to switch roles, they don't hear you."
Learning how to please a woman is an acquired skill. Not all men can do it, many don't care to, and most think they are the greatest of all time. How do you know if you're on the right track? She answers your calls. She sends you sexy texts. She cooks for you without asking, and oh yeah, it's written all over her face. No woman can hide sheer pleasure. Most of us are not good actresses. Faking it requires more energy than keeping it real. Let her be the guide because if she's taking you somewhere consistently, she's trying to tell you where to go without hurting your feelings.
If the woman cares for you she will make the effort to show her appreciation. If you find yourself having to constantly ask her to do something in bed, she loathes it. She hates you and your friend. She wishes you two would just go away, and send the maintenance man in on your way out the door (laugh).
And for those who are out of shape, bloated, and overweight, she does not find that sexy. Being big does not equal being a slob. A grotesque vision in our bed will not suffice, any more than an inadequate lover will.
